Why molly coddling and pampering does NOT work and is to your DETRIMENT


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Sometimes, I gotta watch it with my daughter.

She truly is the most pampered ever, and right from birth, my wife and I have agreed on one thing pretty much – try and do as much for her as we can.

Perhaps because of our own childhoods … (some of the stories I could tell about my wifes would shock you to say the least).

But anyway, I for one gotta watch it sometimes.

Sometimes, and as she grows up I gotta keep telling her that being BRATTY doesnt work in real life.

(not if someone is “into that” as an adult, but thats different, hehe. And no, I ain’t gonna get into that part of it here! ;-))

When she was doing handstand pushups with me, for one. I still remember the fit she threw when she “jumped down awakardly”

Note it didnt hurt her in the least.

It just looked funny and I tittered. Big mistake, hehe.

She went off.

“How dare you laugh at your daughter!”

And off she walked in a huff, her cute little self, all of 7 years of age.

Memories, memories, along with the “baby sized clothes” I used to delight in hanging out to dry, hehe, if just for the memories.

But really, this is what I told her.

“In life, when you dont know something, or cant do it, LEARN how to do it first. And THEN you can say something about it, or even throw a fit, but at that point you won’t need to”.

She knows the Napoleon Hill saying of “Tell the world what youre going to do, but SHOW it first!”

Now, in her defence, 2020 has been a very rough year for all, especially little kids.

And we make lots of allowances for that.

But still, I sometimes remember how different it was during our times.

Yours truly once made the mistake of supposedly “bumping a chair into a girl who was doing all she could to bump hers into mind” (at the age of 11).

And the beating I got from my father left me unable to walk properly the next day, hehe.

Ditto for when I did the gorilla grip in school on a dude that was beating the shit out of me.

I got paddled at home. Big time. For something that was NOT my fault.

“He’s too violent”, went my mom.

(I wonder if she’s seen my daughter go “Ill knock your teeth out”. LOL)

“You should be beaten with an iron rod by the police!” shouted my Dad because apparently the Bozo who was beating the heck out of me went back home and bitched up a storm about the “marks on his throat”.

Did any of this work?

Well, I’ll let you be the judge!

In ninth grade, yours truly got a “yellow card” at school for cutting class, and my Dad had this to say.

“I give up!”

And then of course some drama about how my mother’s health was supposedly suffering because …

… if only I’d have been put on a decent exercise program back then!

But of course, that was “bad”. Studies were the only thing that counted!

Anyway, when quizzed about this years later, my father laughed.

It’s nothing compared to what we had to go through, he said.

He was probably right too!

But really, all of that physical punishment we got (one being a particularly nasty pose that the male teachers for some reason made ONLY the guys get into and not the girls, and this was pre puberty and laughed about it with the girls later – yes – I know – and this was supposed to be a top school!) …

… all the “standing outside class for 8 hours” that my nutty teachers made me do with my hands up thinking it would “resolve the issue” …

… the time my Dad showed up in school and requested the teacher (clay modeling teacher apparently, hehe. We used to get great pleasure as kids as sneaking up behind his back and sticking lumps of clay to the picture he had on the wall. Right on the nose too, hehe) to “take care of him” (i.e. beat the heck out of me even more) because “he had given up”.

Curiously enough I’ve seen my Dad get into it only once with people his size, or somewhat smaller.

And he backed down both times.

(whereas yours truly somehow made it a point to get into fights with those bigger and stronger, and given how I was, that was pretty much everyone, hehe – – and got royally pounded as a result, hehe)

Hmm!

Anyway, point of all this?

Is that yours truly does NOT believe in physical punishment for kids.

Maybe a light “tap” here or there, but thats it.

Certainly nothing like what “we got”, hehe.

But there is a line, and mollycoddling does NOT work. Especially in today’s environment where very soon, and I’ve been saying this for ages, it will be the survival of the fittest, quite literally.

A lot of Bozos are fixing to fall off their perches, in other words.

And fitness wise, samet hing.

Thats why I dont pander to nutzos that claim “your advice doesnt help. You just say just do it!”

Or, I dont mince my words either when praising someone for something they did well, or tearing them to pieces (figuratively) for being lazy, for one.

If they’re trying, I’ll help ‘em.

But really, if you buy one of my books and whine about “it’s too tough for me to do” – ddespite me giving you the WORKOUTS to WORK UP TO IT and the exercises, well, then this email is for YOU, hehe.

Other hand, and being after my recent cull on the list most of y’all are DOERS – barring the stray “onlookers” still here “for the free stuff and nothing more” … well, you KNOW what I mean.

And thats that for now. Back soon!

Best,

Rahul Mookerjee

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